alright.... the key to trying to start a relationship - setting your eye on someone and chatting with them.
you can't expect some hot chick to just walk up and ask you out... you need to be bold. make a move. act confident. start a random conversation. (read debra fine's "the fine art of small talk" for some good tips on how to start a conversation and keep it going).
examples:
1 - bus girl (friday). i was driving my route and one woman gets on my bus. it was a friday so i asked if she was done for the week or if she worked on a rotation and had to work over the weekend. she told me about her 3 day work week schedule, the department she worked in and her hour long commute. using this information i told her about my favourite former schedules, asked if she was familiar w/ XYZ roads/routes. and proceeded to chat with her for the ~15 minute ride until she got off at her stop.
this was a "practice" conversation. not really interested in picking her up - but just wanted to practice chatting, finding openings for conversation starters / continuers, and seeing how i would do at keeping pauses to a minimum and keeping things rolling.
2 - lindsey (saturday). i was driving break shifts for other drivers... well, the way the routes are spaced out, i have a bit of time between the breaks. so i finish driving for the first driver, and while waitng, i see a young lady sitting at the bus stop across the street.... i figured, 'meh, she's kinda cute, why not?'
i walked across the street and took a seat a few feet away from her on the long concrete bench. and began....
me: "at least columbus weather is getting a little less ADD, and we have a nice day for a change"
lindsey: "it's not too bad out"
me: glancing down and noticing a bag from the university book store "taking some time out of your weekend to get your books?"
l: "yeah"
m: "it's rough... one of mine cost $190.... does your major have pretty expensive books"
l: "wow - that's a lot! i don't feel bad spending what i did now... our books aren't too bad"
so i then started asking about her major, what made her pick it, career aspirations, year in school, undergrad / grad, and so on... i had an enjoyable conversation with her until her bus arrived and she had to leave.
LESSON: work on 'closing' early on - getting a phone number exchange, you never know when the person will have to leave... especially at a bus stop or random location where people are there very transiently
3 - cute waitress (i guess it was actually sunday early morning, but i was out as part of my saturday night). i met 5 friends at a local bar after work. 2 left early leaving 4 of us there. we sat around, talked, and drank a bit. decided we wanted to migrate and walk down high st. for the ending of the gallery hop. ended up at a coffee bar / lounge. waitress came up took our orders and i started to chat with her. she came back with drinks and somehow we ended up talking about food and good places to eat. she came back to check on us and the following exchange took place:
me: "so, you said that place is called the banana leaf?"
cw: "yeah - it's really good, you should try it"
me: "what kind of hours do they keep? my schedule is pretty crazy"
cw: "i'm not real sure, but they have this great buffet after noon."
me: "hmmm - that could work, since all my classes are later in the day. tell you what... you and i should go. i've never been and you could point out what is really good and things i would like"
cw: "i have a boyfriend...."
me: (not missing a beat) "so what? that doesn't mean we can't go as friends..."
cw: "hmmm.... i don't know.... maybe?"
me: "well - i'll leave you my number... if you want to, give me a call... if not, that's fine too"
cw: "okay"
at this point she leaves and my 3 friends are all looking at me like, wow... did you just do that? she comes back with the check and i hand her my credit card w/ a napkin w/ my name/number on it. she looks at it kind of surprised and puts it in her pocket. E's jaw was on the floor, mouth open i shock, Q looked at me and said "i wish i had balls like that!", P just tipped his drink my way and nodded.
i don't know how i became this guy... this is shit i never thought i would have the stones for. but, we'll see how things go. my life is complete chaos, and i have no idea how anything is going to turn out. at this point - "i'm just here for the ride...."
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