completely unsurprising - post 78

in tonight's realm of completely unexpected, the nice, intelligent (lapsed) jewish girl from a nice part of new england doesn't think we're a match.  so, that's a thing...

Hey, Victor*.  This is awkward, but honesty is important.  I had fun hanging out but I don't think we matched.  Best of luck to you.

(* c'mon - you guys know it's a pseudonym)

and here's another thing:  i have a plan to try to figure out why i can't seem to get past the 1st (or miraculously 2nd, on the rare occasion those happen) date.  i've conjured up a little plan that i've emailed to a good friend of mine (with significant dating experience) to help me out:

so... okay, i've been thinking. 

i need to address my major issue in dating.  specifically, i seem to think that things go well, but they (the women) never do.

maybe you can setting me up with one of your cast offs (ideally one that would be similar to someone i would actually go out with, so we'd have shit to talk about / commonalities) - but not a real dating thing (she's in on this too).  so, her and i would trade a few emails (like on the intertubes), meet up do a "date" or two and then she'll report her impressions back to you and you can tell me where i'm fucking up and why girls don't want to see me after the 1st (or occasionally 2nd) date.

having missed on the whole trial error time of the teens / 20s, i'm not really sure how else to address this.

 he promptly replied:

Interesting concept. I'll think about who'd be game for this that would be close to your type and report back. 

we'll see if that works out and / or helps out....